Being behind your Coach

I have seen it more and more as my Coaching wife role goes on. You have to stand behind your coach. One of the hardest parts is hearing the negativity someone has for  coaches. We have gotten really good at separating our family life from team life. That does not mean that my coach doesn't care about team life. It means that he can turn off anything from work that is bothering him and be my Husband and my kids Dad! I am truly blessed to have a special coach. Now, that does not mean it always turns off. This is where a coach's wife comes into context, you might have to be that sounding board.
Sometimes your coach needs to vent and it is your job to be that sounding board. For me the hard part is separating my emotions. I want to give my advise.  I have realized is to just listen. I realized it when I heard negativity and I told him,  "Don't say anything, just listen."

He has way more experience dealing with different situations that it is not my job to give advice. I need to be a wife and stand behind my coach. This means to always support him at the games, and at home. I enjoy  the ride and have confidence in the fact that he does this profession because he cares.

The Changing of Seasons

Seasons come and seasons go. It seems that in Texas the weather can change from day to day. It can be 80F one day and 24F the next day. Sometimes it feels like that when you have a husband for a coach. Once football season ends and you think you get your weekends with your love one back, in comes basketball season. Now, basketball season is not as bad as football because normally they don't have to work on Saturday and Sunday. This might happen if a tournament is involved for a weekend. A change like the wind that does come is the schedule of events. For me the kids start to play games as well, and Varsity or JV games happen for Coach on Tuesday and Friday. If the schedule for your coach involves a lot of away games, expect to have no family dinner on those days.
So this was my schedule for this first spring sport:
Monday: Basketball practice for Kids
Tuesday: Kids alternate activities( dance, tumbling, lessons of music)
Wednesday: Church classes
Thursday: Basketball practice for Kids
Friday: Dad's basketball games
Saturday: Kids basketball games
Sunday: Church and activities related to this

So as you can see we are always busy. Now it is important to make sure you make time for each other, and your kids with their father. We try and do this through family time on Saturday afternoon, and Sunday afternoon. That is restricted to family time! It is very important to keep those date nights too!

Now the season is changing again. We are moving into track season. TRACK! Unless your coach loves track this can be a long season. This means Saturdays are back off the table. Track meets happen on Saturday. If you ever want to brave the long days you can spend some time with your honey on those track meet days, and let the kids run around the infield, but it is usually long and boring. If you get VolunTOLD to do lane timings (go for lane eight!) most of the time this lane doesn't have a runner in it. Well, depends on the school size. Smaller schools probably not, but larger schools well oh well, have fun pushing a button for many hours!
Enjoy the change of season, Especially those baseball moms and coach's wives too!
No matter how you slice it, Track, Baseball, or Golf it will still be time sacrificed for  the love of Coaching and being a Coach's Wife.