Friday, July 7, 2017

When He Doesn't Get the Job

What do you do when he doesn't get the job he has worked so hard for? What if you watch another person come in to the position he so dearly wanted?

These questions are hard to answer. I have been on both sides as a wife. I have seen my husband come to a new school taking over a role someone else's husband use to hold. Now, a position he would have liked but was not moved into but awarded to someone else NEW. By new I mean, new to the town and district. This happens often.

The first time I witnessed what teachers call 'reassignment' Let's just say My husband and I did not take well to the news of replacement well. Now this was in the UAE and we handled the news poorly, even though it was a volunteer position. We took that as a lesson and when moving back to the USA decided if something like this happened again we would face the challenge differently.

I witnessed a beautiful Coaching couple done wrong by 'reassignment' rise to the cringing news with the utmost poise. I was astonished at how cordial, smiley, and ever unchanging they were in their attitudes at work and in the public eye. They continued to go to games, talk to towns people, and interact as they always had, warmly with student athletes. I admired their resolve.

So when it was our turn again, I was ready to face the changes. I believe in God and his purpose for myself and my husband in the Coaching world. My husband has the same position he had but was not given the opportunity to advance when the opportunity presented itself. No one can know why some get the job over others. You just can't. All you can do is change your reaction. You can grow up and stand together like the poised couple and be the same people you always were, or you react poorly and let the negativity eat into your lives.

It isn't always easy, but I remind myself that New people coming in are only seeking opportunity, not stealing it. Old people being 'reassigned' or staying in the same position is a testament to your resolve  and your Trust in why God put you in your ministry.

Our choice is to always serve God first! The rest of how our lives change or don't is only affected by our attitude.