The lows are not all

I know for me I hit emotional times. I want to be peppy and someone people can look to for encouragement. I love to hang out. I am a social person. However, being a coach’s Wife is tough. No matter how much you click with a person,they almost always have heir own friends. I have been a coach’s Wife for ten years and through that time I have met and become real friends with three ladies that we met at one school.
Reality check not every school has welcoming staff or wives. You don’t know everyone’s experiences and whether they have been burned before. But I can tell you that not every staff will be close, best buddies, hangout and chill type of coaching family.
Honestly, this business takes a lot from a person and doesn’t leave a lot left to give others.

In my coaching lifetime the first school I was at I made friends with moms of players because I was young and the only other wife was much older and didn't really socialize. I had a toddler and a newborn. We were at different stages in life. I made very close friends with my kids baby sitters parents. In fact the kids childhood babysitter is very close to our kids and is like a second daughter to us. (find you one of those!)

The second school we were at I met one coaches wife and never met any other, so I only had work friends(it was a bigger city)

The next one was my TRIBE! WE CLICKED and we were at different stages but somehow Hod new we needed eachother! We still text all the time even though our husbands went their separate ways three years ago. I love them. We even text each other on Friday nights updating each other on our husband's team.

The next school was great. We were at different stages in life, but got along. We didn't hang out, like BFFS but we had a mutual understanding of our environment and being a coaches wives. Great ladies and I wish them all the best at their new places.

  Well, 2019 and we are on a new place! After all these years my advice is to be open. Friendships will come, bonds will be made. Sometimes you have to make the first move! Be bold and say hi! You never know who you will click with! Happy Fall Friend Making!

Giving up a lot

After posting on social media #thscwa , I realized I am not alone. I am not the only one who has given up a lot. I have a dream to one day be a college professor, or a reading coach, or curriculum director, something that deals in Admin of education. I realized today with a lump in my throat I am going to have to let go of this idea. Why you may ask?
Well, plain and simple I am a coach’s Wife and it’s different for us.
The wife of a coach knows his love and passion for coaching comes first, and we are ok with that. We love our teams, boys, or girls, towns, and the ministry that is coaching. We love seeing our men shape young boys into men. However, I am a coach’s wife. This life is different for us.
My husband is so supportive, and even put aside coaching for two years for me to teach overseas, but I have to realize that my dreams are his dreams too. I want him to be a head coach, I want to yell in the stands and be proud to say, “Yep, my husband did that!” ...........I have to let go and it is hard. Knowing you are not alone and that many successful, bright, and intelligent women are simply supporting their family and husband the best that they can is comforting. It will take some time, but I wouldn’t change my life for anything! I will keep trying, because hey people win the lotto, why can’t I get that dream job I want.
OR your dream job will find you in time. For instance I have friends that never thought they would be stay at home moms or teaching when that's not what they got thier  degree in, but ended up exactly where they needed to be and what they wanted to do. Take some time to reflect and evaluate what you are doing and why God chose that for you. You might be in that certain grade teaching because little Johnny needs your care, or you need to be home to have that wonderful time with your babies, or God chose you to be with a coach and he knows this is your ministry as a couple! I just won’t lose sight of the fact that my REAL DREAM is the life I live with my husband and kids and not what I DO!

Love your life and let the Lord have it! Thank you to all the coach’s wives out there who gave up something for their wonderful lives. And a big thank you to my husband for always believing in me and supporting me!

Kind of coach’s wife

           Yesterday, our basketball team lost in the first round of the regional tournament. As the game was going on I noticed something that I have wanted to write about for a while. First there are two kinds of coach’s wives. I am a screamer! I yell and chant and cheer on my team! Last night I cheered even though the scoreboard said we were losing by 30, and that’s a lot in basketball. Through tears and heart wrenching bad calls I tried my hardest to be louder than the other fans. On one hand I hoped there was a coach’s Wife on the other team doing the same thing. The other kind of coach’s Wife is the non screamer! She will yell, clap and cheer, but is calm and collected. I wish I could be her sometimes, but that just isn’t me. However, that is ok, and that is what our husbands married us for, who we are.
           At home when the end comes I still have to be his hope. I want that to let those coach’s wives who don’t experience winning seasons, it is tough but you still have to be the cheerleader. I have been through the winning seasons too and you have to enjoy the moments.
           Even though our team lost, the memories I take away were of how invested my kids were for their dad, and how they cried for all their “new” big brothers on the team. Also how much my coach appreciated my kind of cheering for him, and that look of thanks for being here.
        Onward and upward, one day we will make State. Love you babe!