Friends

Ok, so I think this post is more of a diary than advice like the others, but here it goes.

I have never been Popular.
Not in elementary, not in High School, and certainly not in College. Yes, I had friends in all stages of my life but I think through my life God was preparing me for this lifestyle of a coach's wife.
Background:
I was made fun of a lot in elementary school. I had one really consistent friend whom I am still friends with today and is the Godmother to my son. Without her I would not have survived through sixth grade.
Middle and High School were kind of the same. I had no idea I was prettier than I thought, and I didn't really belong to a group. So, I clung to a few friendships. Again these got me through.
Next was College. I made a few fantastic relationships and I can say this is where I truly got to be me.
Mairrage: I love my Coach with all my heart and he is my best friend. We share everything with each other. From football plays, to student struggles, losses, wins, laughs, ad much more.

BUT.......
Yes, there is a but. I am not sure what it is but women just sometimes need other women. It seems that in ever place our little family had lived I have found a friend that fills that GIrl Power Need! As one of my college friends put it, "Sometimes you just need someone to say, Your Right!"

Every move Is different and it takes a little while for me to get my compass going, but I eventually find a friend. My husband loves me but sometimes you just need a girl to understand your point of view. I don't need a girls weekend or even a vacay from my husband or family, but every once in a while it's great to just let your hair be messy, wear pajamas, sip wine, and laugh a lot!

I write this to one fulfill my need to express myself, but I think secondly to let others experiencing the same sense of  missing that girl time that , this too shall pass. Cheers! Be kind to your fellow Coach's wives, they know exactly how you feel.

Thanks Jaimie, Melissa, and Lisa❤️

I am not perfect!

I am not perfect. I have many flaws. One is not always having everything together. I do my best but sometimes I need help. Sometimes I bottle it all up, while other times it spills over. I have to keep praying and telling myself that this Role of a Coach's Wife is a full time job. I do my best and sometimes my best is not always good enough. I know he works and is gone. I have to say there are some professions out there that like coaching take your husbands away for long periods of time. I may not understand what it is like to be those wives but I do understand what it is to be a Coach's wife. I love that we don't just have two children we have 90+children. We love each kid as if they were our own. I am proud of my husband and how even after a long day he makes time to snuggle with our daughter and play with our son every chance he gets! He always asks how they are doing in school. I think one of my favorite parts is that he texts me before every game and says "Taking the field, Love you." I always reply I love you", even if I know he won't see it till after the game.  He always makes me feel special by saying how beautiful I am or how pretty I look. It is hard to not think of my own frustrations throughout the day and all the things I have to do. I still try and do my best and what makes our marraige work is we listen to each others frustrations. I wouldn't want to accomplish this journey with anyone else.  I just want to say thank you darling to being the best partner I could have hoped for! ❤️you and 🏈Lee Valdez

Being behind your Coach

I have seen it more and more as my Coaching wife role goes on. You have to stand behind your coach. One of the hardest parts is hearing the negativity someone has for  coaches. We have gotten really good at separating our family life from team life. That does not mean that my coach doesn't care about team life. It means that he can turn off anything from work that is bothering him and be my Husband and my kids Dad! I am truly blessed to have a special coach. Now, that does not mean it always turns off. This is where a coach's wife comes into context, you might have to be that sounding board.
Sometimes your coach needs to vent and it is your job to be that sounding board. For me the hard part is separating my emotions. I want to give my advise.  I have realized is to just listen. I realized it when I heard negativity and I told him,  "Don't say anything, just listen."

He has way more experience dealing with different situations that it is not my job to give advice. I need to be a wife and stand behind my coach. This means to always support him at the games, and at home. I enjoy  the ride and have confidence in the fact that he does this profession because he cares.

The Changing of Seasons

Seasons come and seasons go. It seems that in Texas the weather can change from day to day. It can be 80F one day and 24F the next day. Sometimes it feels like that when you have a husband for a coach. Once football season ends and you think you get your weekends with your love one back, in comes basketball season. Now, basketball season is not as bad as football because normally they don't have to work on Saturday and Sunday. This might happen if a tournament is involved for a weekend. A change like the wind that does come is the schedule of events. For me the kids start to play games as well, and Varsity or JV games happen for Coach on Tuesday and Friday. If the schedule for your coach involves a lot of away games, expect to have no family dinner on those days.
So this was my schedule for this first spring sport:
Monday: Basketball practice for Kids
Tuesday: Kids alternate activities( dance, tumbling, lessons of music)
Wednesday: Church classes
Thursday: Basketball practice for Kids
Friday: Dad's basketball games
Saturday: Kids basketball games
Sunday: Church and activities related to this

So as you can see we are always busy. Now it is important to make sure you make time for each other, and your kids with their father. We try and do this through family time on Saturday afternoon, and Sunday afternoon. That is restricted to family time! It is very important to keep those date nights too!

Now the season is changing again. We are moving into track season. TRACK! Unless your coach loves track this can be a long season. This means Saturdays are back off the table. Track meets happen on Saturday. If you ever want to brave the long days you can spend some time with your honey on those track meet days, and let the kids run around the infield, but it is usually long and boring. If you get VolunTOLD to do lane timings (go for lane eight!) most of the time this lane doesn't have a runner in it. Well, depends on the school size. Smaller schools probably not, but larger schools well oh well, have fun pushing a button for many hours!
Enjoy the change of season, Especially those baseball moms and coach's wives too!
No matter how you slice it, Track, Baseball, or Golf it will still be time sacrificed for  the love of Coaching and being a Coach's Wife.

Dealing with Sickness

Blah, Uggg, Cough, Sneeze, Wheeze, Gasp! All the sounds of sickness. Being a coach's wife is not easy. It is even more difficult when sickness hits you or your family. Usually once you have the internal drive to make every game or go to work sick, you still are his number one fan. If you are a Mom, you DON'T GET SICK! I am not being sarcastic. When your the mom you can't get sick. You still have practices, classes, after school activities, church, and work. Kids still need to be fed, laundry done, baths given, homework done, and dinner cooked. It is not an easy job to be a mom, but it is the best job. 

In other words what happens when one of your mini fans goes down. I have had to battle this for about the whole month of October. My daughter and son are adjusting to a new climate and area. The allergies, climate, and school spread sickness have just come at them one week after the other. When these situations arise, your Coach will understand. Your family comes first and making them well will pay off. It gives both of you peace of mind.

You can still show that you care. Asking about practice, and how things are going are just a few little ways to show him you care. I also pay close attention to the Friday night local news. I want to always make sure that I am still involved. I also try and make treats or sweets for the Coaching staff. Kind of sending a piece of my support to the team even though I won't physically be there to cheer them on. Good Luck flu Season is upon us and so is District and Playoffs! Bundle Up, stay warm, and safe for fall football season just can't be beat!

Good Luck in District all you HS football Coach's Wives!

New Friendships

New friendships can come easy to some people. For me it is a process. I may seem open and confident on the outside, but inside I am just dying. I am awkward and it takes me a little bit to read the personality and humor of another person.

I remember starting a season of rugby in the UAE and I had a friend now that I had a "friend crush" on. That's when you click with a person and want them to be your friend but they already have a group of friends and you don't really know how to integrate yourself into the group. I really just kind of wait it out and eventually my winning personality takes over! Ha!Ha! (right Amy Hestness) Well, the best advice I can give new coach's wives or even coach's wives in a new town is make friends with the other coach's wives first, cause they know what you are going through. They know the hours your husbands put in and they know what it is like to be the household while they are working.  Then as you integrate into a community like personalities will surface and you will form new friendships. Also if you are the veteran coach's wife, have an open door policy for those new ones. It is a calling to be a coach's wife, and it is important that we support each other.

I do have advice to the town folk! Please be welcoming to the new people in town. It is hard being the new kid on the block. Also please wait till you are close with someone to divulge personal secrets.

WELCOME to the 2014 Football Season!

Two-A-Days

Two-a-days has started! YAY! It's football season! I am one of those Coach's wives that just loves this time of year! I love all the getting ready with gear and getting decked out in school colors! What do you do when it starts? 

Here is a go to list of ideas:

• Get your gear on! That means go buy a shirt or a couple in your school colors! If you live and work in the same town as your husband  coach's then just get one or two the school should be selling team support shirts and your gonna want one! 

• Get your kids gear on! I love making sure my daughter has a hair bow in the teams colors and my son has a shirt that goes the same way! We have to be decked out for our Coach! We are his number one fans!

• Get his gear on! Not all coach's are the same, but my coach loves to support his team in practice and home! He gets sunglasses that carry lenses the same color as the team color, he has the shorts, shirts, and shoes to go with it! He will get some stuff just for the coaching staff, but its always nice to start two-a-days with a little school spirit!

• Get your house in order! You never know who might show up to visit, coach from same staff, family to see a game, friends visiting to see a game, or players who just need advice from your coach.

• Get the goods! That means have snacks on hand to feed the occasional guest, coach, or team member!

• Get loud! Don't forget to get your noise maker! A cow bell can be bought at most feed supply stores, and don't forget to decorate it in the school colors!

Now once two-a-days starts you can do this stuff while he is working, and me being a teacher I am getting ready for school. If you are not an educator, a coach always needs help with his classroom. Coach's are good with kids but not so good with decorating! Help him out and set up his room with at least a decent bulletin board and a place to hold his pens! This is an exciting time because anticipation is building for the season and anything is possible. At home be encouraging and even though the separation is starting with the long work hours the reward is so fulfilling with the smile on your coach's face when he comes home talking about his team!

GOOD LUCK to all you new Coach's Wives and all the Teams out there!(can you tell we are the color purple;)

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